Let’s face it, in modern day life we have stresses, struggles and challenges thrown at us. Some times more than others, and some people more than others.
Now as many of you may know, I am a firm believer that ensuring one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances is positive, constructive and empowering is HUGELY impactful! This is a skill that can be learned! As with any new skill/habit it takes time. BUT I have an incredible method that you can start using straight away to get benefits immediately.
So what is this secret trick?! Well they’re actually no secret as we use these ‘things’ every day, without most of us realising it…they are called sub-modalities.
Firstly, here’s a brief description of what they are –
Sub-modalities in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) are fine distinctions or the subsets of the Modalities (Visual , Auditory , Kinesthetic, Olfactory, Gustatory, and Ad). They are the building blocks of by which we code, order and give meaning to the experiences we have. Sub-modalities are how we structure our experiences.
I know that’s quite a mouthful that may sound a bit jargon-ish! But the following exercise will help it become more clear:
1) Firstly close your eyes and imagine/visualise you are in a stressful situation that you really wish you were not in…get really vivid with the details. What can you see? Hear? Feel? Smell? Touch? How does this all make you feel? What emotions are arising? Does your heart rate increase? Does you body tighten up? Use the table below to help get as descriptive as possible.
2) Now close your eyes and imagine you are somewhere you love. What is one of your favourite places or situations to be in? Thailand? Sweden? With family for dinner? Riding a bike along a sea front? You choose! Now I want you to answer all the questions from part one again.
Did you notice how REAL both scenarios felt, even though you were not actually there? Did you feel the gulf in the way you felt in the different circumstances? So by extension of this, you can use part two of the exercise at ANY TIME to feel happier, more positive, empowered, confident, relaxed, energized…basically you choose the suitable memory or the environment that will make you feel a certain set of emotions, and then you can transport yourself there. Gaining all of the emotional benefits of being there, without physically being there.
I used to get super stressed travelling on The Tube (subway, Metro or MTS for my international readers) at peak times so used to imagine being on a beach listening to waves breaking…it completely changed my commuting experience!
The subconscious mind DOES NOT differentiate between reality and imagination! Now how amazing is that considering your mind is 90% driven by this part of the brain!? Let’s use this to our advantage and remember to use this amazing technique whenever we are in an environment that is not to our liking...you can truly transform your life with it.